Monday, August 11, 2014

Gossip Girls


Before we start with the topic, did you notice that I'm trying to get creative? Did you peep the pictures? Yup #SheDidThat! Now on to business...

During my quiet time this past week, I came across some interesting topics. Some of which made me ask myself, What type of woman am I? and What type of woman do I want to be? There are a list of things that I need to work on and some of them I will discuss with you on this blog and others will be for me and God to hash out ;-).

Let's dive into the world of...Gossip. If there is one thing I know that most women are guilty of, it is gossiping. Even when we try our hardest not to, it just happens. In the workplace, during girls night out, vacation, lunch, dinner, sleep...it just happens naturally for most women. And before you roll your eyes and say this isn't you let's define the word. Gossip- idle talk or rumor, especially about personal or private affairs of others. We all do it at some point of the day or week, even if we try our hardest to avoid it.

So why do we feel the need to discuss someone's personal or private matters? As I've gotten older, I've noticed that I now pick and choose who I gossip with. If I'm amongst people that I just associate with, I will allow them to gossip and I will engage in my normal smile and nod. We will come back to the smile and nod reaction in a minute. However, if I'm around my dearest friends, it's almost like I feel as though I have permission to say whatever I want. It will only stay between my best friend and I, right? See, THIS is why I'm on a journey. In God's eyes, gossiping, no matter with who or where, is wrong. Proverbs 4:24 states to "keep your mouth free from perversity, keep corrupt talk from your lips.Or as described in Eugene Peterson's book, The Message- "Don't talk out of both sides of your mouth; avoid careless banter, white lies, and gossip." Proverbs 18:8 says "the words of a gossip are like choice morsels; they go down to the inmost parts."

Even if I'm just listening with a smile and nod, it's wrong; my reaction could come across as me agreeing with what is being said and most of the time I don't. Why would I want to fill myself with that? What do I really get from participating in gossip? I get nothing from it, except some extra information about someone's life that really has nothing to do with me. I have enough going on with me, no need to add to it! So again, why gossip? Since I can't really find a good reason to be for it, especially now that I know God isn't down with it, I move to be against it!

I am far from perfect, and if someone decided to just go spreading my private and personal moments around, it would hurt me. I strongly believe in treating others as I would want to be treated and I wouldn't want someone spreading my business. There are so many other things I could talk about and/or listen to, so today I make a conscious effort to not participate in anything that could be considered gossip. If I'm in a group that decides to start, I can a) walk away or b) don't say anything (no smiles and no nodding). If I'm asked my opinion I probably won't quote Proverbs, but I can say something along the lines of no comment, maybe something less formal (I'm so awkward)....I don't know but it will come to me. However, if I'm around people that I truly care about, I probably will share the knowledge because what I know, I need my true friends and family to know. I'm learning that not everyone will receive my new journey with open arms and that's ok. I'm not here to please anyone...we have someone bigger to answer to.

So what kind of woman/person are you? Do you gossip? Is it necessary? Does it make you feel better as a person? It probably doesn't make you feel better and it isn't necessary. It's just something that we are use to doing, but just because we formed a habit out of something, doesn't make it right. Just think about it.

I'm sure that I will fumble back into the old gossip habit from time to time. Habits are difficult to break but I am aware of it and ready to take the challenge.



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